Summary
This B2-level ESL lesson plan helps students explore the complex emotions surrounding heartbreak and past relationships. It encourages them to use imaginative thought experiments to gain new perspectives on their feelings. The lesson integrates listening comprehension, advanced vocabulary, and practical grammar to facilitate meaningful discussions on emotional resilience and moving forward.
Activities
- A warm-up discussion where students reflect on the concept of "heartbreak," dwelling on past relationships, and the importance of understanding why relationships end.
- Video comprehension questions based on a thought-provoking talk about using imagination to navigate and overcome heartbreak. Students will fill in the blanks with key vocabulary from the video.
- A vocabulary-building activity where students match key terms from the video, such as "compelling," "ruminate," "counterintuitive," "implausible," "salient," and "sobering," with their correct definitions.
- A grammar focus and practice section on the past simple passive tense, which is used to discuss past events in relationships where the action or result is more important than who performed it. This includes choosing correct sentence structures and transforming active sentences into passive ones.
- An idioms practice exercise where students complete sentences using common phrases related to relationships and feelings, such as "get over," "change of heart," "fall out of love," and "move on."
- A speaking practice session designed to encourage students to apply the newly learned vocabulary, grammar, and idioms to discuss personal reflections on moving past relationships and the role of imagination in healing.
There can be few pastimes more compelling than to ruminate on an ex.
How extraordinary they were, what beauty they had, what happiness it would bring to have them back.
Thoughts of them can intrude on new relationships.
They follow us into workplace meetings.
They cause us to cry at certain moments in films.
They come between us and the beautiful places we've traveled hours to see.
There might be one rather counterintuitive way of dealing with the trouble of exes,
to take very seriously the one thought that we have until now probably been resisting that we could in fact get them back.
This is likely to sound at first blush entirely implausible.
They said they were done.
There have been months of silence.
We had a rather cold meeting back last year.
They might be with someone else for all we know.
But let's look at things squarely.
Very often, in many cases, far more than we assume, there could be a path back.
We could show up at the door and do this properly,
lay out the case, make a giant play for them, and maybe, just maybe, they'd say yes.
And even if we can't directly assume this, let's at least allow ourselves a thought experiment.
The key move is to push our ideas to the next stage.
What then? Not being able to have someone back prevents us from ever exploring a truly salient issue.
Do we actually want them back?
It prevents us from analyzing with sufficient energy and realism whether a return is truly a good idea.
So long as we think a return impossible, it's safe enough for us to say a firm yes.
There is no cost to our pained but addictive imaginings.
We can pick out the very best bits of the movie which almost always lie near the start of the relationship.
That trip to Athens, the cozy nights in Marrakesh, the amazing three weeks on the coast in Wales.
But we must direct our syrup soaked minds elsewhere to the cold light of dawn.
Imagine now they're back.
The person who's grown to mythic proportions in our mind has returned.
We could move in with them tomorrow.
They're with their bags in the hallway.
Their train is coming this morning.
It's not beyond imagining.
And now we must imagine it. What would it be like? Really like.
We've been picturing them as hazily beatotific.
But think of those cheeks, those eyes, those hips.
Think then of their character, those habits, those ways of complaining, those enthusiasms, those compulsions.
Then there's the history.
Given what happened, if they were here, we'd hate them so much for what they'd done, the time they'd wasted, the humiliations they'd meed out, their clumsiness and shiftiness.
We'd want to shout at them more or less all the time.
We couldn't bear to touch them.
They would be, if we look at the matter frankly, radioactive.
It's one of these moments when the mind shows its limitations as a reasoning machine.
We see that it's prone to hold two entirely contradictory truths without ever bothering to collide them.
One part of the mind knows full well that they are putrid.
Another insists on their perfection.
We need to make some introductions to our varied parts.
We need to show the impossibility of the tormenting dream by making it live as a possibility in our minds.
We stand to come face to face with a sobering truth.
We don't actually want our ex back.
We want what we had at a certain time when they were kind, when their complexities and disappointments hadn't come into view, when we didn't know them too fully.
That person we loved a lot.
But the person now, the person after the awful silences and those messages and the news of the betrayal and that chilly farewell, no, we couldn't have them.
They would disgust us within minutes.
We're crying at the pain of missing someone that we would immediately ask to leave us alone if they showed up.
The route is simple.
The best way to get our exes out of our minds is to think in pedantic and cleareyed detail about what it would be like actually to have them back in our lives.
Vocabulary focus
The vocabulary section introduces advanced terms from the video that are useful for discussing complex emotions and thought processes. Key terms include "compelling," "ruminate," "intrude," "counterintuitive," "implausible," "salient," "sobering," and "pedantic." Students will learn to use these words in context to articulate their feelings and observations about relationships and personal healing.
Grammar focus
This lesson concentrates on the past simple passive structure. This grammatical form is used to help students discuss past events in relationships where the focus is on the action or outcome rather than the agent who performed it (e.g., "My heart was broken," "The decision was made"). This makes the grammar practice highly relevant to the lesson's theme of reflecting on past experiences.
